Kelly's Korner Komments: Dreams

Kelly’s Korner Komments
Dreams
Sorry, Mr. Freud. I just have to say that I really don’t think that you or anyone else, including your disciples, can truly explain why we dream what we do. The old mind just jumbles together so many thoughts and emotions and an inexplicable menagerie of images, memories, fears, and anticipations. You can awake with tears, shaking in emotion; or maybe sweating in fear with your heart racing uncontrollably; or any of a whole gamut of emotions and feelings. Sometimes you can remember the dream vividly, and sometimes you just have the feelings left with no real recollection of what caused them. The dreams of our sleep are amazing, beautiful, and sometimes scary.
But, then there are the dreams of our waking hours to consider. I am not sure that those dreams are any more easily explained. Dreams of future glory; dreams of accomplishments; dreams of love won and kept; the dreams that lives wind up being built on.
One of the saddest characters ever on TV, for me, is one that young folks won’t even know about. It was a character played by Carol Burnett on her TV show. Her show was humorous as a whole, but this one character, a part of a family (Mamma’s Family grew from this section of her show) was one that you could not help but feel sorry for. She has all of these dreams about getting out, about being a star, about success, but she was thwarted on every hand by her mother and bum of a husband, and other relatives. You could not help but feel the frustration this character had as you watched.
The other day we watched a movie about a young black girl who won the national spelling bee. Again, at first, her mother and all the people in her neighborhood, including her best friend, said that she could not reach her dream. Eventually they all became her fans, and helped her succeed in her dream.
As a parent you have to watch your children face their dreams. Sometimes you don’t like their dreams, for one reason or the other. A lot of times you don’t like them because you are afraid for them: afraid they will fail, afraid they will be physically hurt; afraid they will have their hearts broken, or their dreams crushed. It may be one of the hardest things for a parent to know how to deal with.
I have drawn one conclusion. In my limited wisdom and experience: I have decided that it may be better to let the one you love take the chance of failure, than to never chase his/her dreams. They may fail. They may get hurt, physically or emotionally. But they can always say that I chased my dream.
Dreams – who can explain them. They can be wonderful and they can be cruel, but we will have an empty life if we don’t have them.
Just my thoughts – my Kelly’s Korner Komment for now.